Tuesday, May 29, 2012

And that's 1 year up!

Dear Karthik,
Today as we complete one full year of being together, I only think its appropriate I dedicate a special post to you :-) The year has flown past us and I've learnt a lot in this short span. We've had some wonderful times together and also some "not so great" moments... Through this post, I do want to let you know how much I appreciate the things you've done for me. I know you work very hard to provide for me, for us and to ensure we are in a comfortable situation. I love the cozy home we have along with every gadget possible to make things easy for me especially in the kitchen. I love that you don't think twice when I say I am lazy to cook(I know I've done this a lot especially last year when we'd just gotten married) and would immediately get takeaway food. I love how you say "Lets get away somewhere every month". Now this is not a luxury that everyone can afford and I'm truly lucky! :-) And you do mean it... I have totally enjoyed all the trips we've done this one year - Kumbakonam, Tanjore, Madurai, Rameshwaram, Bangalore, Kerala, Delhi etc
Eagerly waiting for that long vacation coming up in October! :P
What really amazes me is that when I expect you to be angry with me, you just don't even get the least bit annoyed. Still remember the night when I had gone out with my girlfriends and came back late in a "not to nice state".. you ensured I was ok, you tucked me into bed so tenderly, searched the road and the entire building for my phone at 2am, was up early the next morning washing clothes and basically doing all the chores that I normally do, just because you knew I was too tired to do anything. And till date, you haven't mentioned a word of it and it goes on to show that you are extremely broadminded and liberal. I couldn't have imagined living with a man that wouldn't give me my sense of space and freedom. I thanked my stars for not letting me get married to someone that was narrow minded and even more thankful that I chose the right person :-) Thanks for having been there, it truly meant a lot to me!
I love how you are slowly but steadily building a nice rapport with my family and friends. For a person like you, who hates to socialize, I know it is a bloody big deal to handle TMK(!!) and I can't tell you how happy it makes me to see you smiling, talking, wishing them on birthdays/anniversaries etc. I really hope to be able to do the same, or at least 50% of it, with your folks and friends, someday.
I also love other smaller things that you've done for me - like how you are so patient in certain ways. For instance, when I have trouble getting my gold earrings in, I love how you come and sit next to me and patiently help me, all the while ensuring that I don't get hurt. Fussing over me when I cough/sneeze just once. And then of course constantly follow up with me to ensure I've taken my medicines :P
All the romantic things we've done - Night drives, ice cream, eating at shady joints after a fight, watching movies cuddled up in our bean bags, off roads, sunrise photo sessions, watching cricket with me even though you hate it so much.. gawd..I could just go on.. all these mean so much to me..
You push me to give my best. While I've not been able to deal with this completely, I know that if I take things in the right stride, I will be a better person. It has stressed me out a lot in the past, which has led to a lot of fights/arguments between us. I do realize that it is part of your personality and you expect the best out of everyone especially me. I am trying hard to change myself and become more responsible. However, today as I look back, I can only think of all the fun times we've had. These small areas of concern don't seem like such a big deal anymore! ;-)
You've put up with a lot of my nonsense this one year. Hope it hasn't tired you out completely, coz honey we have a lifetime ahead of us and you better be ready to do this on and on and on... especially my cooking which I know is a work in progress.. :-( I really hope to get there someday! lol
Thanks for being there for me & with me this last year... Cannot tell you how excited I am about taking off to Kodai this week...You're the "awesomest" thing that's happened to me... And I'll treasure you for life!
Happy 1st Anniversary, Karthik.

Friday, May 25, 2012


One thing I've noticed about myself off late( and my best friend confirmed it this morning) is that I'm losing my temper too easily. U see I'm a very patient person. It takes a lot..like a LOT.. for me to lose my cool. And when I do, God save the other person. I usually save it for once in a year kind of situation.. yes I'm weird that way. Now, post marriage, I'm ready to snap and swear at just about any time. Hmmm. Wonder if there is a connection there?
You see my husband is a perfectionist(or at least he would like to think so) and I'm anything but that. Our friction arises here. Initially, it used to make me wonder if I was the one with the problem. Later I would accuse him of being silly and abnormal(not proud of it at all). But now, as we complete one year of marriage, I realize that it is more of a personality issue. He is not wrong. But then neither am I. We just need to understand and work it out between us. So the last few months I have tried to do things that would make him happy(ier). It could be small things --at least in his eyes, but for me it took a lot of effort. And when he would still crib about things not happening or not being in place, that is where my stress levels would rise. And I would snap back! 
I sit here wondering how things can be different. Coz I would really do anything to make him a happy person. Like anything. Yoga is something I'm seriously contemplating. I know. Again, I'm more of a gym/aerobics/dance class kinda person. But then I've heard Yoga helps you relax and I think that is what I need to do at this moment. Will be back later, hopefully in a better frame of mind. Peace.
I'm leaving you with a couple of songs that makes me feel very ummm..mushy? Dunno. Or maybe peaceful. Oh in general gives me a nice high. Enjoy listening.. Later!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

My 1st birthday as a married woman :-)

22nd April 2012 - 5:45 am - @ home

I wake up hearing music in our room. I know for a fact its not my ringtone but it wasn't K's either.. But it kept ringing so I got up thinking maybe he changed it. I walk to his side, check his phone and its blank. I quickly walk back to check if it is my phone and nope, wrong again. By now its gotten pretty loud and our man is still blissfully asleep. I was like.. "WTH"! By now, I'm convinced there is someone in our room and its pitch dark. I am slightly freaking out.. what if there is a robber or someone who broke into our house? And then I see light on our mirror.. like flashes of red... and its coming from underneath our bed. Oh oh! I quickly peep and guess what I find....

Isn't it the cutest thing on planet earth? Hahaha. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.. but yup as you can see, my birthday started with a loud bang.. literally!! And I saw a little note next to it which read...

Now I'm like a treasure hunt... Err.. Its too early to start running around.. so let me rest for a bit and then begin. By which time, our man has woken up and wondering "why the hell isn't she running around to find her gifts".. which led him to start being grumpy.. and then I get up and start looking.. and kept lookin and kept lookin.. Gosh.. I got so many gifts.. but the treasure hunt.. Grrr.. He made me run all around the house!!! And to the car downstairs around 3 times...
Some of the clues were super tough.. but of course there were some classic moments.. Sample this.. 
"Look in the coolest place of the house". The first thing that comes to my mind is the AC! I jump up and down, looking near both Ac's in the house, at the stabilizer and all sorts of places near it.. Nothing.. And then it hit me.. It's the freezer.. DUH!! Rotfl. Ok ok, blond moment I know. But I was smart enough to unravel the clues and get to all my lovely gifts.. the alarm was one of course, then I got earrings, perfumes,
a fridge magnet that says "I love cricket", a baggage tag that says "The Lost Girl", the cutest ANGRY PIG(see below and you'll agree!), a gift voucher from Oryza(Yipee!) and many more such lovely gifts.. thanks a ton, K! :-) 
Then we headed to lunch with the parents and in laws.. was nice.. I had to definitely visit the grandparents as well and ended up spending some much needed quality time with them. I stayed until around 6ish, met the uncles/aunts etc  
I am quite exhausted by now and I enter the house and guess what.... SURPRISE!!! 
It was super cute... Sne, Ashwin, Sanju, Mosh and K had gathered around, decorated the house with balloons, got a yummy chocolate cake, and generally made is so much more special! thanks a ton guys.. u are the best!! :-) 
Of course, I treated them to some nice Chef Express pizza and garlic bread and we danced around, laughed a lot and generally chatted.. was super fun! 
To all my friends who called and wished and made it much more special.. THANK YOU. MERCI BEAUCOUP!! What a lovely way to turn..err.. a year older :P 
Here's my latest buddy - Isn't he absolutely adorable! Sigh.